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You Weren’t Asking For It

“You were asking for it!”
Sadly this is a phrase you are going to hear. I know it seems crazy that someone would treat you so badly after being assaulted. I was shocked to say the least when I first heard it come out of someone’s mouth. But it does happen. Let’s take a moment to talk about what “You were asking for it.” means.
Some very sexist people think that the way people dress determines whether they were “asking” for assault or not. People feel that if a girl is wearing a dress and heels she is asking for sex and if sex is forced apon her she has “no right” to complain. On the other hand if a girl is wearing sweatpants and baggy clothes she isn’t asking for it and it’s considered assault.

This is 100% wrong. It DOES NOT matter what you were wearing. Assault is assault.

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