I first want to start off by apologizing for not posting anything over the past couple of months. I decided to just enjoy my summer and take a break from my blog but now that school is starting again I’m back!
I thought I could start off talking about coping methods! When I was first assaulted I didn’t know how to cope with it, I got angry and I lashed out hurting myself in the process. I wish I would’ve known the skills I know now! I’m going to share some of the techniques I’ve learned over the years!
There are various techniques for different stages of dealing with the aftermath of assault.
The first thing I felt was confusion, I couldn’t understand why this happened and how it happened to me. What really helped me during this time was telling myself yes this happened to me and what happened was horrible but things were going to be ok. I would tell myself this over and over again.
Another stage is the guilt even though what happened is not my fault I still felt like I should have fought back harder, said no louder, got away sooner. But it’s absolutely not your fault if you are assaulted or raped. It is absolutely not your fault! Now what helped me with this was writing down my feelings. I just wrote everything that was upsetting me and hurting me and now this sounds weird but in a safe, controlled environment I burned the letters. I know this sounds crazy but burning it and giving your troubles up to God is really helpful.
Another big stage I went through was anger, now this stage was hard for me to get out of. I really struggled with this one, I was constantly angry not just with the guy who assaulted me but with everyone. I couldn’t handle people and it absolutely consumed me but then one day about a week before Christmas my therapist gave me a present. A large black pool noodle, now the job I was assigned was to go outside with this pool noodle and beat a tree. You can scream and yell and cry while doing this. This is a good outlet for getting out all the rage in a safe environment. I used that pool noodle so much we had to throw it away. Now these methods may seem out there but it really helps!
Now the one method I’m currently using is to help with the fear of being assaulted again. I call it my five senses trick. You take a deep breath and feel all your senses. You look around to see what’s around you, you inhale to see what you smell, you listen for sounds around you, you ground yourself and see what you feel under your feet, and if you can you see what you taste in your mouth. Now if you take the time to do this you find that you completely forgot about what is triggering you and you are calm and can cognitively think on how you can react to this trigger.
I hope these tips will help you with your coping with assault, dealing with it is a constant battle and it will never go away completely but trust me things will get better and you will be ok! There is always the sun behind the rain.
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