I think it’s time to go back to the basics. Today I’m going to be explaining to you what consent is and why it’s bad to go against it.
Let's start with a simple question. What is consent? Now some people may have a skewed perspective about consent but it boils down to one simple thing, the word no. Now if a girl says “no” or “stop” or “please don’t” then as a guy you should stop what you’re doing immediately. No can come in many forms, it may not be just verbally, you have to look at body language too. If the girl seems uncomfortable in even the slightest it’s time to take a break and assess the situation to make sure they are ok and comfortable. No matter what you’re doing, always make sure that the other person gives consent.
Going against consent is a very serious thing, it’s an extreme violation to a woman. Not only does it affect us physically but it messes with us mentally. Consent doesn’t always have to be some big sexual thing, it can as simple as posting a picture of a person on a platform they are not comfortable with or making your friends hang out with someone they don’t know. Without consent we lose the basic respect for other human beings.
When consent isn’t considered in a situation it makes people feel out of control, people lash out and people can get hurt. After I was assaulted I had a need to control every aspect of my life and I myself ended up hurting/ pushing the people I love away because they didn’t fit into my “locus of control.” Many people don’t have ill intentions and that is understandable but learning when to give consent and when to be aware of your surroundings, like learning to look for body language will help you in the long run. Don’t be afraid to ask people if they are comfortable with situations. Having an awkward conversation with a friend is a way better result than pushing them too far and having them stop being your friend. Or worse violating them in a way neither of you can come back from.
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