Don't Let Them Win

  I think it’s time to go back to the basics. Today I’m going to be explaining to you what consent is and why it’s bad to go against it. Let's start with a simple question. What is consent? Now some people may have a skewed perspective about consent but it boils down to one simple thing, the word no. Now if a girl says “no” or “stop” or “please don’t” then as a guy you should stop what you’re doing immediately. No can come in many forms, it may not be just verbally, you have to look at body language too. If the girl seems uncomfortable in even the slightest it’s time to take a break and assess the situation to make sure they are ok and comfortable. No matter what you’re doing, always make sure that the other person gives consent. Going against consent is a very serious thing, it’s an extreme violation to a woman. Not only does it affect us physically but it messes with us mentally. Consent doesn’t always have to be some big sexual thing, it can as simple as posting a picture of...

    "Not All Men"     This seems to be a common term these days, and I agree not all men are rapists or abusers but every women has either experienced sexual assault, violence, or harassment. It seems like every girl has been a witness to this form of violence. There isn't a girl out there who wasn't sat down at a too young of age and told about what not to do so they don't get sexualized and there is something deeply wrong with that. Lately I've been really into poetry and I wrote a poem that reflects on this topic.     Witness A crime against a woman A man with no alibi The trial starts The truth will be found Some testify Some take a vow Wrong place  Wrong time They accuse the girl because of the skin he could see It does not matter the amount of skin she reveals The pain he caused her will never disappear He claims there was no boundaries set He claims that she said yes The jury looks at her with hateful eyes They are all men too No surprise  ...

      I am going to apologize once again for not being active in my blog, the past few months I’ve been struggling mentally and I needed to focus on myself. After going through my blog I found a comment that I would love to address. It states that the person who assaulted me did not rape me and that I forced him to f**k me. I want start saying no he did not get as far as rape and I have never said that he did rape me I said it was a sexual assault and for the other part of their statement, this is not true. Guys like this tend to hide behind lies to make themselves feel better.     We can’t control other people but we can control ourselves. Not everyone is going to believe us and I’m going to say this time and time again but don’t be afraid to tell your story! There is no good reason I would waste my time writing a blog and talking about it for years if it was a lie. People sometimes have a hard time understanding difficult topics so they sid...

I first want to start off by apologizing for not posting anything over the past couple of months. I decided to just enjoy my summer and take a break from my blog but now that school is starting again I’m back!  I thought I could start off talking about coping methods! When I was first assaulted I didn’t know how to cope with it, I got angry and I lashed out hurting myself in the process. I wish I would’ve known the skills I know now! I’m going to share some of the techniques I’ve learned over the years!  There are various techniques for different stages of dealing with the aftermath of assault.  The first thing I felt was confusion, I couldn’t understand why this happened and how it happened to me. What really helped me during this time was telling myself yes this happened to me and what happened was horrible but things were going to be ok. I would tell myself this over and over again.  Another stage is the guilt even though what happened is not my fault I still felt...

This is probably one of the hardest posts I’ll ever do but I’m going to do it to show everyone it’s ok. I started seeing a therapist, I saw one before when I was first assaulted but I was too young to understand what I was feeling so I suppressed all the emotions. Now I am in a safe place where I can finally get them out. I want all of you to know it’s OK to seek help, it’s OK to see a therapist. It doesn’t make you weak, it doesn’t make you weird, and it most definitely doesn’t make you broken! As soon as I started seeing my therapist she diagnosed me with PTSD and an anxiety disorder. Now I’m sure this confuses people because PTSD is usually associated with soldiers and God bless their souls for fighting for our country and I’m not saying I’ve been through anything as hard as they have but PTSD is way different in kids then it is in adults. My PTSD does not make a violent person at all. With my PTSD I get flashbacks some of these flashbacks can be pretty bad but mostly it’s just...

Hi everyone! Because of the pandemic that is happening right now I am going to have a lot more free time on my hands! So I’m going to try to post twice a week! Also I want everyone to ask me questions! Things you want to see on future posts, questions you have about me, or questions you have about my assault story! I hope everyone is staying safe and I can’t wait to hear your questions! Just hit the comment section below this post and I can see everything you comment!